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I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships by Michael S. Sorensen
Published: June 19, 2017
Publisher: Autumn Creek Press
Genres: non fiction, self help
Rating: 4.5 stars
Recommend to fans of: people wanting to work on their communications skills, reducing stress
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+ 2018 IPA Book Award Winner What if making one tweak to your day-to-day conversations could immediately improve every relationship in your life? In this 3-hour, conversational read, you’ll discover the whats, whys, and hows of one of the most valuable (yet surprisingly little-known) communication skills—validation.
Whether you’re looking to improve your relationship with your spouse, navigate difficult conversations at work, or connect on a deeper level with friends and family, this book delivers simple, practical, proven techniques for improving any relationship in your life.
Mastery of this simple skill will enable you to:
• Calm (and sometimes even eliminate) the concerns, fears, and uncertainties of others
• Increase feelings of love, respect, and appreciation in your romantic relationships
• Quickly resolve, or even prevent, arguments
• Help others become open to your point of view
• Give advice and feedback that sticks
• Provide support and encouragement to others, even when you don’t know how to “fix” the problem
• And much more
In short: this skill is powerful. Give the principles and practices in this book a chance and you’ll be amazed at the difference they can make.
I won this book for free through Goodreads Giveaways. Thank you to Goodreads, Autumn Creek Press and Michael S. Sorensen for an ebook copy. As always, an honest review from me.
The premise of I Hear You sounds too good to be true, but its really not. Most of the book is centered around the premise of validation being the key to better understanding, meaningful conversations and relationships. I think it’s true. I tried out the technique myself and it worked. It helped to deescalate a situation in which the other person was angry and stressed. They felt heard and understood and the situation resolved itself nicely. Also, bonus, I felt proud about the new interpersonal skill that I acquired.
I like that the book is short without too much extra fluff. Succinct information but also enough examples to really help you apply it to your life. Almost everything in the book completely resonated with me.
However, I wish there was more about getting people to validate me when I need it. It’s so hard to tell someone “I’m feeling insecure, validate me!” Also I want to add that you don’t always have to do the long drawn out process of validating people. You can put yourself first, keep it short and sweet and not be an emotional sounding board for the other person. But these communication skills are great when you choose to use them.
Overall, a really helpful book! Many self help books are informative but when it comes down to real life, don’t help me that much. Not so, with this book. I definitely recommend giving it a read!
What are your best communication tips? Enlighten me!